Reflections on grounding, first published in the Journal of the Biodynamic Massage Therapists Summer 2019 ISDN 1461-3743
How the vasomotoric cycle, the inner-seasons and the pelvis helped me to ground myself
Bloody grounding. I’ve struggled with it all my life: falling over, shaky-kneed, over-excited, too much, too heady. I feel I am highly qualified to write about grounding because it’s not been an easy journey. Just the invitation to ground myself through my feet sends me off, shooting up to my head and ungrounding me.
Grounding is out of ...
You’ll have noticed that the word ‘massage’ is no longer visible on my site or online. People, I am no longer a massage therapist. Don’t freak out, I’m not re-training as an accountant, it’s more that what I actually do no longer fits the description ‘massage’.
Massage implies someone doing detached stroking, making everything better, easing away reality. It’s a nice lady, (usually, but not always a lady) sorting you out.
I am not a nice lady
I think perhaps I always wanted to be that nice lady, but I am not. For years I felt that ...
Bump massage can do wonderful things for you and your baby, making your pregnancy easier as well as potentially improving your experience of the birth. Yet most of my clients are surprised when I outline the benefits of massaging their bumps beyond trying to avoid stretch-marks.
I have created detailed instructions for you to give yourself a bump massage at home; there's a visual guide with written instructions as well as an audio to guide you through this deeply relaxing practice.
It’s a natural, instinctive thing to do and you’re probably ...
I am no longer taking on new pregnancy clients, so here is a list of some great massage therapists nearby. As always when finding a new therapist, as well as looking at their site, give them a ring and see if you feel a connection. Ask lots of questions and ultimately trust your guts and you won't go far wrong.
As a leaving gift, I have created a Yoga Nidra meditation for you to recreate the feeling of being safely held and connected with your body, just like when having a massage. It will help you relax deeply into yourself if you are pregnant or wanting to ...
If you go to a beauty salon or Spa and book a massage, they will always ask if you are pregnant and in most cases will refuse to give you a massage except where they have specially trained therapists. But does this mean that massage is unsafe in the first trimester?
Is there proof?
In truth there has been no research into the safety of massage in the first trimester so we can’t prove it either way, but massage is akin to gentle exercise in that it improves circulation, oxygenates the blood and releases endorphins. As the NHS recommend that pregnant women stay as active ...
Can you honestly, hand on heart, say that you love your body? Really? What about your belly or the underside of your arms? Or that bit that you always apologise about in yoga class?
Every day in my massage practice I witness the judgments women hold about their bodies. This shows up as apologies, negative self-talk and numerous other ways, but this negativity is from women who have taken charge of their self-care enough to come for a massage. Imagine all the women out there who didn’t make it this far and couldn’t bear to be seen or touched at all!
I must have massaged thousands of tight shoulders over the years, a classic sign of tension, the muscles get tight and can cause headaches and other kinds of misery too. In between your massage appointments, a little self-care will really help to ease shoulder pain. This video shows you simple things that you can do at home to create more ease and softness.
If you are interested in more easy exercises to bring more joy in your life, I have that covered too!
I often ask myself,
"Am I going mad?"
As the brain fog rolls in and my energy drastically dips. But then I remember the secret to surviving menopause and feel that yes,
"I am going mad, but in a good way!"
But it's not madness that's dogging me, it's the process of transition that's causing the chaos. Menopause is a time of transformation, we are preparing to give birth to ourselves and as any mother knows, giving birth can be an intense process! There are so many beliefs about myself, identities and ways of being that must be let go of if I am to travel safely to the ...
This month it is 23 years since I trained as a massage therapist and started to give massage to help women feel good in their skin. I am blessed to have had so many amazing teachers; to both my trainers who put up with me being so wayward and finding my own way and all the amazing clients I've worked with, THANK YOU!
This is me interviewing my partner in belly love Leora Leboff on how womb massage changed her life; she has an amazing story to tell.