Menopause is like crawling into a deep, dark underground cave; it takes courage and presence to navigate but there is gold to be found and brought back to the surface.
I had a wonderful chat with Tania Elfersey where we shared our top three things that menopause has taught us; we cover rest, sleep, night sweats, the emotional ups and downs, why we might experience so many different menopause manifestations and how to manage them.
We even venture into the spiritual aspects that we've been gifted and end up all misty-eyed.
Back in the last century, I used to wander the pavements reading as I went, falling into potholes and risking my life crossing London streets. Then I moved out of town, had kids and for some time read very little. This year as I'm researching for my book on menopause, I have made up for the years of mothering by gobbling up books like the starving bookworm I am. Don't be put off if menopause isn't your thing, there's also memoir, magical tales, classics, spirituality, menstruality, marriage, relationships, literature, reassuring charmers, rock and roll, family, grief and ...
Fear around the changes of the menopause can make physical and emotional manifestations harder to deal with, creating stress and isolation in what can be a time for growth. I was delighted that WellDoing published this article to show how to work with menopause instead of against it.
You can read the full article here
(Top marks to the editors for finding that rare thing, an image of a mid-life woman you might actually want to be friends with, they are very hard to find!)
Reflections on grounding, first published in the Journal of the Biodynamic Massage Therapists Summer 2019 ISDN 1461-3743
How the vasomotoric cycle, the inner-seasons and the pelvis helped me to ground myself
Bloody grounding. I’ve struggled with it all my life: falling over, shaky-kneed, over-excited, too much, too heady. I feel I am highly qualified to write about grounding because it’s not been an easy journey. Just the invitation to ground myself through my feet sends me off, shooting up to my head and ungrounding me.
Grounding is out of ...
Menopause is free spiritual therapy, it offers everything we pray that regular meditation and the perfect therapist will deliver if we choose to engage with it. There are broadly three parts to it:
Stripping away of our defences - SeparationAsking us to stand in the unknown - SurrenderEmerging tenderly back into the world - Emergence
All physical and emotional manifestations, all the stuff we fear and complain about is in the service of our re-birth as more present, authentic, happier people. But wouldn’t it be less terrifying if we knew the path we had to tread ...
I am very excited to share my four, brand new Nidras I've recorded especially for menopause; one for each phase and then one for Second Spring, which are now available for you to buy in my shop. Hooray!
The magic pill for menopause is to slow down and rest, and then when you think you've done that, rest some more. One of the biggest gifts I've received has been Yoga Nidra which I've used pretty much daily for the last four years.
Here are the Yoga Nidras I've created for menopause:
Separation – bringing release and softness in perimenopause
adventures as a highly sensitive, menopausal woman
Understanding menopausal insomnia
If you are preparing for or experiencing perimenopause, check out our online retreat 'Am I Going Mad'
All through my sleep deprived years I have snatched greedily at any article about how to cure menopausal insomnia, jumping on the latest fix with my claws out, desperate for it to end the misery that sleep deprivation brings. Over the years I have bought and tried the following:
Avena sativaMelatoninLavender essential oil5HTPNitolNight time tea of various brandsA ...
Taking a look at some of the common challenges that Medicine Circles address.
One of the key aspects of receiving a Medicine Circle is creating an intention at the beginning of the process. Making your intention as clear as possible helps to focus the material and makes it easier to integrate it into our daily self-care.
It takes a little while sometimes to really get to the nub
of what needs answering, but there’s no rule. Sometimes they can be intensely
practical – “How do I manage these night sweats?” Through the full spectrum of
feeling stuck, physical ...
It's a tricky business finding help when you're feeling vulnerable, especially in menopause so if you're wondering about what you can do, or having a Medicine Circle, you can book a chat with me at no charge and get yourself some free space to talk stuff through and ask questions.
There's space to share what's happening, to be witnessed and heard and I can feedback and offer suggestions if you'd like that. Half an hour for you to explore what you need in your life right now.
Why does menopause hurt so bad? I mean really? All it is is the natural shift in hormones as our menstruating life comes to an end and our 'second spring' emerges. It's a shift from taking care of 'them out there' to taking care of ourselves; shouldn't that be easier and more joyful? One late summer morning I got up with a bee in my bonnet on this issue and did a Facebook live to think it through. Click on the image below to watch the vid.
What I didn't go into, but will maybe get a bee in my bonnet about another day, is a lot of the pain is down to our culture not ...