Menopause is free spiritual therapy, it offers everything we pray that regular meditation and the perfect therapist will deliver if we choose to engage with it. There are broadly three parts to it:
Stripping away of our defences - SeparationAsking us to stand in the unknown - SurrenderEmerging tenderly back into the world - Emergence
All physical and emotional manifestations, all the stuff we fear and complain about is in the service of our re-birth as more present, authentic, happier people. But wouldn’t it be less terrifying if we knew the path we had to tread ...
The premenstruum is a notoriously tricky time but there are fabulous gifts to be found here and insights to learn. Co-creator of The Agenda. Period and coach Alyx Coble-Frakes asked me how to use the luteal phase aka inner-autumn to prepare for perimenopause, how to manage your inner critic, limit craziness and create more spaciousness at this time in your cycle. We also pondered on the current corona times and how this also has an autumnal feel. You can find out more about perimenopause here and get your copy of The Agenda. period here
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A list of free and paid for online offerings to connect and grow while we sit the virus out at home, click on the blue text to find more details. If you have something you'd like me to add, just leave a comment.
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These are difficult times for all of us as we face every aspect of our lives with uncertainty. Bloody difficult. Naturally, we're all feeling the stressed out and powerless (hence the loo roll madness) and this will impact on our immune system at exactly the time we need to be in robust health.
We need to find healthy ways to soothe ourselves especially when our hormones are shifting in menopause, a naturally more vulnerable time.
As a highly sensitive person, I am familiar with over-stimulation and carrying generalised anxiety in my body and I am VERY good at ...
Self-help for you to manage your symptoms in perimenopause or 'Separation' the first psychological phase of menopause. If you want to know more about the phases and how to manage them you can find out here.
Separation is the psychological phase also known as perimenopause, a much ignored and very challenging time. Find out why you are not going mad but in fact becoming sane, despite the rage, the grief and the flushes; you're going to be OK. You can read about the three phases in more detail here or find more self-help for Separation here.
You'll have heard about hot flushes, but menopause is also a psychological process. Discover the three psychological phases Separation (aka perimenopause), Surrender and Emergence and the joy of Second Spring of post-menopause. You can find more detail about the different phases and how to ease yourself through them gently.
The time after Emergence is known as Second Spring and heralds the birth of the new person. With clear boundaries, discernment, a sense of her own needs and pleasures, this person resembles the teenager she once was, but with 40 years of life experience behind her. She is awesome in her capacity to be vulnerable and to hold her authority. She is compassionate and able to offer herself in service to the world, without sacrificing herself in the process. This is where menopause takes you if you choose to engage with it.
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Menopause is like crawling into a deep, dark underground cave; it takes courage and presence to navigate but there is gold to be found and brought back to the surface.
I had a wonderful chat with Tania Elfersey where we shared our top three things that menopause has taught us; we cover rest, sleep, night sweats, the emotional ups and downs, why we might experience so many different menopause manifestations and how to manage them.
We even venture into the spiritual aspects that we've been gifted and end up all misty-eyed.
Back in the last century, I used to wander the pavements reading as I went, falling into potholes and risking my life crossing London streets. Then I moved out of town, had kids and for some time read very little. This year as I'm researching for my book on menopause, I have made up for the years of mothering by gobbling up books like the starving bookworm I am. Don't be put off if menopause isn't your thing, there's also memoir, magical tales, classics, spirituality, menstruality, marriage, relationships, literature, reassuring charmers, rock and roll, family, grief and ...
Fear around the changes of the menopause can make physical and emotional manifestations harder to deal with, creating stress and isolation in what can be a time for growth. I was delighted that WellDoing published this article to show how to work with menopause instead of against it.
You can read the full article here
(Top marks to the editors for finding that rare thing, an image of a mid-life woman you might actually want to be friends with, they are very hard to find!)