We hear from the ridiculously prolific Stella Duffy about loss, endings, mortality, the value of living with a sense of our ageing instead of denying it, and the exquisite possibilities for being ‘more ourselves’ that this brings. Stella is hugely generous with sharing her life experience and there are some beautifully profound moments in this interview.
Stella Duffy has completed a doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy and her research is in the embodied experience of postmenopause. As well as her private psychotherapy practice, she has worked in NHS cancer psychological support and hospice bereavement support.
Alongside her therapy work, Stella is the award-winning writer of seventeen novels, over seventy short stories, and fifteen plays, and worked in theatre for over thirty-five years as an actor, director, facilitator, and improvisor. The co-founder and, for eight years, the co-director of Fun Palaces working with communities and inclusion across the UK, Stella has been active in equalities and diversity work in the arts and LGBTQ+ communities for many decades. In 2016 she was awarded the OBE for Services to the Arts. She is also a yoga teacher, leading regular workshops in yoga for writing.
We also talk about the ubiquity with which HRT is prescribed (wrongly) for all menopause ailments, often without evidence, using misogynistic and ageist language that causes immense harm.
The Book Stella mentions, With the End In Mind, is by Kathryn Mannix
Feminine Together, (that misogynistic horror) is by Robert Wilson
Stella’s links
Blog (writing, cancer, in/fertility, politics, life)
Insta: @stellduffy & @stelladuffytherapy
X/Twitter: @stellduffy
Threads: @stellduffy
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The Perimenopause Unwrapped online course mentioned in the podcast can be found here or if you’re new to the concept of cyclical awareness, this Starter Kit might suit you.
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