Lily l’Amour – tell me I’m beautiful

This is part of the Pants of Empowerment project, where women share the voice of their feminine nature and in return, receive a fantastic pair of pants to empower them. All names have been changed.

lily-l'amour-pants“I am in awe and impressed by the perimeter of my pelvis like I was in a cathedral, there was a holiness, like wow!


My womb is strong and my left ovary is where it should be, and the right ovary feels a bit crooked, low down and wonky, not quite right. That took my attention.  Why would that be? I tried to put the ovary up, in my imagination, but it wasn’t having it. It felt a bit crippled.”


What would your ovary like to say?

“It’s around being in the world and making things happen, and she wants more support. There’s so much to do and so much is possible, that this paralyzes the action. And it’s in a nice way, there’s too much good stuff to choose from. I want it ALL and that’s too much of a burden.


There’s an urge for greatness, to do things out in the world and that’s a pressure, right? I can be an enjoyable process but it’s such a pressure, it almost collapses under the weight of that.”


What would your ovary like to wear?

“Something with sparkles, flowy with lots of folds, really delicate but grand, so it would have a real presence. Very feminine, maybe red, strong and feminine and powerful and sexy and floaty. Sexy high Priestessy.”


How will she feel in her pants?

“She will feel held and validated, maybe they’re magic pants and they’ll give her an access to what might be!”


What does your ovary need to heal or to feel celebrated?

“On a practical level, zooming out, my vulva, she needs someone to tell her she’s beautiful and mean it. I have told her this and that was healing, but I and she would like to hear that from my husband I think. That’s something I’ve never heard and I’d like to hear.”


How’s your ovary feeling now?

“It’s really nice to be listened to, to be in dialogue, she’s not broken, she’s just bowing under the weight of things, it doesn’t need to be that way. It’s like an exhaustion when you melt onto the sofa… it’s not that she’s deformed, it’s a  temporary thing and she’ll perk up. I just need to listen and to use creative outlets to help me in conversation. There doesn’t have to be an end it can be a process of connecting. The output doesn’t matter, it’s a conversation.”



I love my power pants! I feel sassy and sexy and fit for a festival. Celebrated and gorgeous. Pretty and powerful.

  • Lily l’Amour



1 Reply to "Lily l'Amour - tell me I'm beautiful"

  • Rachel Young
    May 30, 2018 (10:14 am)

    I used this wonderful format to ask my vagina how she was feeling and this is what emerged.. I am so grateful for having this exercise to explore and honour this important aspect of my life.:)What would your vagina like to say?

    I’m lonely and neglected. My juicy stretchiness has disappeared and now I feel scratchy and bad tempered. Whenever I get a visitor I cringe and stiffen – no longer the warm inviting curvy seductive road to melding and rising to a boiling sea of togetherness. Now a blind dusty alley, painful, fearful and confused. I don’t know how to be. I don’t know what to do. I feel de-skilled and disconnected.

    What would your vagina like to wear?

    Something classy with dignity. Something which honours her history of welcoming lovers in and babies out into the world. Something that speaks her valuable truth – perhaps something, in the immortal words of Maya Angelou, with diamonds at the meeting of the thighs. But to represent the vulnerability of her changed state, perhaps also something with a nod to her delicacy.

    How would she feel in her pants?

    She would feel connected once again to her purpose and to the world. She would recognise her relevance to the present and feel the richness of experience and wisdom. She would be up to the challenge of true intimacy without the shortcuts of hormones and youth – open to being witnessed as finite and fragile.

    What does your vagina need to heal or feel celebrated?

    Acceptance. Time to grieve. Some playtime more suited to her new condition. Acknowledgment of difference and change – and that the consequence of chasing the holy grail of juicy youth is to miss out on vital post-menopausal connection and intimacy that this new state offers.

    How is your vagina feeling now?

    More relaxed. Less uptight. Forgiving. Tearful. Still a bit fearful, but also open to possibilities.

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